I haven’t been in “the industry” as I’ve come to know it for any significant stretch of time, but prior to doing hardcore videos I was a stripper, so technically I have been in the adult industry since I was 18 and I feel like I have something to stand on when I talk about my experiences in the industry. In the club I worked in, prostitution was absolutely abhorred. Being accused of hooking was like being called a witch in Salem. The girls didn’t like it because it made lap dances much harder to sell, the club owners didn’t like it because it could cause legal trouble and they wouldn’t even get a cut of the money made (and they ended up making less money from lap dances), the bouncers didn’t like because they didn’t get tipped on it. Nevertheless, stupid men still continued to proposition us at every shift for sex. Some girls politely turned it down hoping they could still squeeze some money out of the guy. When it happened to me, I got angry.
I just couldn’t stand the assumption that I would fuck the fat-walrus-looking man for $300 in the back. Thats all. I don’t personally have a problem with the transaction made between a hooker and a john. I think it should be legal. There is one way to solve the CA budget deficit. Tax hookers. We’ll run Nevada out of business. But when a disgusting dude asks me if he can stick his nubby little penis somewhere in me, he’s only asking because he assumes there is a chance. I don’t like it when its assumed that I’m a hooker.
Granted, it happened much more frequently at the strip club than it does now that I’m in porn (probably because they could ask in person at the strip club, now they have to email me to talk to me), but the propositions still come with more reliable regularity than my period. At least once a week I will get an email through myspace outright asking if I “do privates”, and almost daily I get the more subtle emails that are just feeling it out before they blatantly ask. Recently, one got by me and landed in my personal email account (which is even more annoying than the myspace ones).
I had given the guy my email address because he was a photographer and wanted to do a shoot, or he had a clothing line he wanted me to model for…. or something. I’m not sure which one he was but there were a few people at adultcon I gave my email address to for one seemingly legitimate reason or another.
So the asshole sends me an email about setting up the shoot. We go back and forth on possible dates. He asks my rate, I give him the half day rate and the whole for the type of solo girl modeling he wants me to do. Then he writes back “…. well I only wanted to book you for an hour, how much do you charge for an hour?”
And I wrote back “I’ve never had an hour long booking. Thats not even enough time for make-up. Exactly what kind of shoot are you trying to book?”
and he said: “1000 roses for a private”
and I said: “go fuck yourself”
and he said: “why so angry?”
and I gave him the reason mentioned above.
Then he had another stupid response that I can’t recall now. Anyway, he was sending his emails from his legitimate business account. Like most business email accounts, every email was signed with his first and last name, work, cell, and fax numbers, business name and address, and his title. And I hadn’t deleted any of his emails. So I informed him of my new policy: now that I have the privelage of posting whatever the fuck I want up on mikesouth.com, I will be posting each and every propostion for sex that is sent to me. These posts will include all personal information and every single thing that is written between us. And if they send pictures, those go up too. Needless to say he had no response to that last one. And I’m going to stick with this policy. Every single proposition that comes to me via email will be here for all to see the following morning. In the spirit of fairness I will put up a warning on myspace.