Introduction

Dom-Sub relationships seem to be the holy grail of BDSM relationships. While the dynamics of the relationship are often etched on one person being dominating and the other submissive, it can also trickle down into the other aspects of a relationship outside the bedroom.

The intricacies of a D/s relationship are more than how modern media portrays them and can be the basis of a beautiful and healthy relationship when done right. So if you’ve been in a long-term D/s relationship and are looking for new ways to keep the flame alive in your romantic relationship, here are five fun ways to do so.

5 Ways To Keep The Flame Alive In A Long-Term D/S Relationship

Open Channels Of Communication

All committed relationships, even outside of the D/s spectrum thrive on open communication. If you and your partner want to take control of your pleasure and bring a new sense of excitement to your long-term relationship, starting with healthy communication is the way to begin.

Is there something that you have wanted to try for a long time in bed, or even outside of it? Are you feeling emotionally disconnected with your partner due to poor communication habits which is making it harder for you to enjoy yourself in the bedroom? It’s natural to feel that way in long-term relationships, but it’s not smart to let these feelings fester for long. So, start by talking to your partner about your needs and actively listen to theirs. You might find something new to bring to the bedroom, or share a feeling that most people only find after several sessions of couples therapy.

Add Novelty And Spontaneity

Whether you want to bring a new sense of dominance to the relationship altogether or just spice things up after being in a long-term D/s relationship, adding elements of novelty is the best way to do so. Maybe you’ve been meaning to dabble into sadism for quite some time or you want to add black sex dolls to your sex toys collection. Whatever it may be, using new items in your intimate relationship can bring the spark back into your daily life as you explore new ways to make your D/s relationship fun.

And if that’s not enough, spicing up the place where you decide to do the deed or what you wear while doing it can be extremely fun. For instance, you can dabble into special dominatrix outfits for the day, or explore any specific fantasy that you’ve had through costumes that turn you both on. Since a D/s relationship relies on one person taking reins of the sex life in their hand through consent, maybe enjoying an active love life outside your usual places can make the experience more enjoyable. Whatever works for you is perfectly acceptable as long as both parties equally and enthusiastically consent to these novel experiences.

Create New Rituals

The dynamics of a D/s relationship often match two people who are capable of having a twin flame relationship. This means that they both hold a mirror to each other’s souls and their connection is so intense that it can lead to extreme growth and transformation when done right. Since sex is an integral part of exploring this connection in a romantic setting, you can add certain rituals to your D/s relationship to make it a healthier relationship that fulfills you both.

Do you and your partner enjoy the transition of power exchange more when you’ve both worked out together before an intense session? Or, maybe you find that your D/s sex is more fun after the Dom prepares a hearty meal for the sub beforehand. Whatever it may be, starting a new ritual before your D/s sex can be the backbone for an intense connection and can help foster healthy relationship dynamics.

Final Thoughts

The dynamics of a long-term D/s relationship involve practicing novelty and investing in strong communication to keep the flame alive and ensure that you and your partner are gratified in the bedroom as well as in other aspects of your relationship. Whether you’re a married power couple, or romantic partners in a long-term consensual D/s relationship, adopting the tips given above into your daily life can help strengthen your twin flame relationship and help you avoid the dry spell.