OK you all are smart enough to know that there is no such thing, but a couple of times every year some dumb ass does a study that circulates around in the mainstream press (like it is now) about how porn produces the same brain activity as heroin blah blah blah. They go on to talk about how the brain behaves the same as it does when you ANTICIPATE a dose of heroin or whatever they are comparing porn to….NEWSFLASH for you idiots…chocolate does the same thing as does anything that person considers pleasureable. I know when I am headed out to sea at sunrise anticipating a great day of offshore fishing my brain is awash with dopamine and what not. Its not the before measurement that signifies an addiction, it’s the after.
Now You really want to measure if its an addiction….compare someone who has gone 48 hours without porn to someone who has gone 48 hrs without a cigarette or heroin or a drink or whatever REAL addiction you want to compare it to….Theres your comparison.
Addiction my ass.
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Not very PC, but very TRUE, Mike. Calling porn or gambling an “addiction” is an insult to those who have faced real addictions.
Now if I can be even more politically incorrect, I’ll go a step further. Calling alcoholism, drug addiction, etc a “DISEASE” is just as insulting to those who face cancer or other real diseases. I’ve always thought that was crazy.
You can add working out to that list too! The brain is surging with Dopamine during a good workout.
I actually have many thoughts on this subject. I agree that it is definitely NOT an addiction.
But, I do believe it is causing problems within some relationships. It seems there is now a trend where men who watch alot of porn are not able to get an erection from actual sex. I actually have a friend who is going through this right now…
Her husband has a hard time getting and keeping an erection during sex with her, but if they watch porn together he has no problem keeping an erection. I think it’s really just hurting her feelings mostly? Of course, she takes it personally that she’s just not exciting enough for him by herself.
And, I keep hearing more and more of my friends talking about this… I never really know exactly what to tell them?
If your cock is big enough to get stuck to your thigh then you’re a lucky guy!!
(Oh, that rhymed. LOL)
@Hunter:
I never understood why alcoholism and drug addiction is considered a disease either. Nobody forces someone to drink or take drugs. If you become addicted it’s your own fault. But, no one chooses to get cancer.
The reality is that she ISNT exciting. He probably fell out of love as well. In the last few years before I divorced my wife I found it impossible to get hard for her because I resented her and wanted her out of my life. Once I realized that I was appalled at her very presence I filed for divorce and have been enjoying life ever since. For your friend, watching porn helps him pretend she is someone else. Someone that he doesnt resent and actually wants to be with. Either that or she let herself go and physically looks like a hot mess.
I’m addicted to Dr. Pepper. I need help.
@jilted:
Bahahahahahaha!!! 😀
@Kate
Exactly. And by the same token, no matter how bad the addiction, a person can simply make a choice to beat it. Wouldn’t it be nice if all “diseases” were like that?
@lacey
Every relationship I have been in has gone through that to some degree and I compare it to my relationship with the Hitachi Magic Wand. Yeah, I’m madly in love, but that thing just does it the way I want it. I’m on my 3rd now. I melted one once. The plastic got so warm it warped into a weird shape from me squeezing it.
I learned to do what they were watching in the films or some way replicate it in the bedroom, couch, car, hiking trails, and even once in a public restroom that smelled like urinal cake at a farmer’s market/swap meet at a church. It drove him up the wall and I thought it was hot, but I couldn’t get turned on because I was too worried about getting caught. I definitely got attention when we got home.
A lot of times you can just grind on his leg as he jerks off and then he’ll jump into the action. I’ve been in a 7 year relationship now and we no longer have separate porn collections. What we buy goes into OUR collection. (If we break up we will fight over that more than the television and microwave for sure) It goes in cycles I’ve noticed. We almost always have porn on during sex with the sound off and music blasting, but a lot of times it is only there to catch glances at during sex. If you make it a regular part of love-making then he’ll usually have no problem rising to the occasion.
If he’s nervous or shy just say you want to watch him jerk off to porn. Say it turns you on. Once you do that a few times it usually will let him open up. Aside from that my suggestions are things like lingerie and toys and buying them regularly. Toys (aside from the Hitachi) can get old, but once you bring out an old one with a new outfit or one you haven’t worn for 6 months it is like a new adventure all over again.
@jilted
That’s a tough one. You think you are addicted to just Dr. Pepper, but in reality you are addicted to a cocktail of 23 different flavors. I wish you the best of luck.
@Hunter
Some alcoholics and heroin addicts can literally die if they stop. Their body goes into such a shock. Maybe porn is like that. Why else would guys have to masturbate on the subway or the bus? They could be dying for all we know.
@CPanzram:
Lol. 😀
@CPanzram for someone who takes the handle of a pretty notorious serial killer…you crack me the fuck up
@Hunter:
Yep. I totally agree with you.
CPanzram:
You’re hilarious!!! 😀
@chris –
While I do agree with you, it does seem a little harsh. Some of these women have full time jobs, kids to take care of, a house to keep clean and an entire list of other shit that has to get done… I would guess the last thing on her mind is being “exciting” enough to keep his dick hard??
I guess I’m just a little worried that within the last 6 months, I’ve had at least 5 friends explain this same exact problem. I’m not sure how to tell them “You fucking suck, you’re not exciting enough to keep his dick hard and you’re not attractive enough to fuck because you let yourself go and you look like a pig. Oh, by the way he doesn’t fucking love you anymore.”
How in the fuck am I supposed to tell a friend that? I get that the above may very well be true, but it can’t be that clear for ALL of them?
I’ve always wondered if it’s not porn, but actual porn stars that are the main issue here? When a guy watches porn they seem to normally like it pretty rough and dirty with slapping, spitting, facials, etc. and then they go to have sex with their wife and they don’t want to view her that way.. I doubt many husbands go around telling their wives “you dirty little slut whore. When we get home I’m going to fuck you like the good little whore that you are…” That may happen in a porno or in specific relationships, but it’s really not that common in the real world for either side. The husband might not want to see his wife as a dirty slut whore piece of shit, BUT that’s what gets him off. And, the wife may be into BDSM to get herself off, BUT the husband hates BDSM? I don’t even know if I’m actually making sense right now?
I guess what I’m trying to say is the husband is ok with watching dirty porn star sex, but they don’t want to view their own wife as “dirty” which then just takes the excitement out before she even tried. She doesn’t even have a chance before “the game” even begins.
Sorry, I’m kind of just rambling at this point… I hate being asked about this subject from friends and I hate trying to analyze it myself. 🙁
In my experience I have found that sometimes..more aggressive sex is fun but I dont and wont do spitting and specially assault or choking and such…I like facials (giving) but thats prolly to be expected since thats my niche. But it isnt a deal breaker…I MOSTLY like whatever turns her on but thats a two way street too…I do like it when she wears sexy clothes, does her hair and makeup and puts some effort into being exciting and or visually appealing. It doesnt have to be all the time but it should be enough to keep things from getting boring. Its a two way street….I have FWB relationships that have lasted for years because neither of us gets too comfy with a routine. That keeps the sex and the person interesting.
@jilted –
Hey!! I’m addicted to Sprite so we can go to Soft drinkers Anonymous meetings together!
I do think coffee *may* be addictive? Have you seen someone who hasn’t had their coffee in the morning? They look like addicts waiting for that next hit. 😉
@CPan –
Don’t even get me started on breaking sex toys… I have somehow broken at least 75% of them at this point. I’m a sucker for g-spot vibrators. But, then it just makes me feel like a lazy masturbator most of the time. I mean it can’t get any easier… so, I get over the guilt really fast.
Do you have continuous orgasms? I’ve always thought maybe I just use them too long each time? But, then, I’ve never really understood people who masturbate and only have 1 orgasm? The first one is just the beginning!! It’s not until around #4 when it really starts to get fun! Hahaha.
Oh, and I don’t really need any advice on how to get a dick hard. I could touch his thigh and he would get hard, but for some dumb fucking reason he won’t jerk off in front of me??? It drives me fucking insane. It’s the same fight every time with me asking him to jerk off and him telling me “why would I want to jerk off if you’re right in front of me?”
I mean, I can see his point, but get the fuck over it already. My mouth isn’t fucking going anywhere…
@Mike –
Yeah, everyone has their own tastes when it comes to sex and especially fetishes. But, it does seem that most people pretty much want to please their partner(s).
Although, there are some selfish fucking assholes out there who couldn’t give a shit about what their partner wants… I’ve heard way too many horror stories.
I have to admit sometimes even my own likes & dislikes confuse me. Like, I hate spitting in the face, but I completely understand throat fucking for the lube factor. I hate slapping in the face, but I fucking love ass slapping. I don’t like facials, but I have no problem swallowing. Absolutely no fucking choking, but stepping on my head is pretty cool.
Everything kind of intersects and makes no sense to me sometimes, but I guess that’s what makes it fun?
Alcohol and drug addictions are considered a disease for the simple fact that over time they can change certain neurotransmitters in the brain which is why both are considered “brain diseases.” Hence, why you can actually die from stopping certain drugs…