Comments on: The Man

By: common sense

common sense — Thu, 06 Nov 2014 05:23:20 +0000

@jilted: I can definitely relate to parts of your story. It sounds like your brother was a really good guy. I’m sorry his memory had to be viciously attacked by these vile cowards. I’m positive they will eventually get theirs. My heart goes out to you and your family.

By: LurkingReader

LurkingReader — Thu, 06 Nov 2014 04:56:13 +0000

Tim Ty for sharing your brothers journey!

Like Tim I spent time at UCLA Reagan with a sibling. Can’t vouch for their heart Dept but can’t shout loud enough from roof tops about the Liver and Kidney specialists and their staff we encountered through the fall of 2008.

Please don’t wait till it’s someone you’re going to miss till your dying day to fill out a donor card. Gift those who will miss you till their dying day by removing any doubts, freeing them of any second thoughts a decision one way or the other may leave them with.

In 2013 it became possible for folks with HIV to become donors to HIV recipients. If you have questions talk to your doctor who can answer them or direct you to most appropriate source.

By: mharris127

mharris127 — Thu, 06 Nov 2014 04:21:33 +0000

In reply to jilted.

I was attempting to explain why I feel the way I do about involving innocent family but if you feel it is appropriate you may edit out what you need to. I understand this is a very sensitive matter that in a perfect world would not have happened. You may start editing in line three where the sentence ends with “with” and the next sentence starts with “For”. You may also delete this post along with your post above. May the bullshit from Dr. Flip Flop cease and your brother rest in peace.

If you are unable to edit these posts you may request Mike to do so without further requesting it to me.

By: CPanzram

CPanzram — Thu, 06 Nov 2014 04:08:22 +0000

Thank you for sharing about your brother. Many of us know someone in a similar situation and this makes us think of them.

By: jilted

jilted — Thu, 06 Nov 2014 02:33:42 +0000

In reply to mharris127. thank you Harris,,,may I ask you a favor,,,,,may I edit your post to just the first few lines,,,and we can take up the other matters you mentioned in another place,,,,I see what you are saying, and I whole completely agree, but I would like to keep this seperate from the industry stuff,,,plentof opporntuntiy to voice those concerns on othe thread,,,,,,i will then delente this post entirely,,,,just asking a favor.

By: mharris127

mharris127 — Thu, 06 Nov 2014 02:26:51 +0000

Tim, may your brother rest in peace. I don’t know exactly what the people you have mentioned in porn have said about your brother but I have always thought that when you have a disagreement with a person that you don’t attempt to drag down their family in retaliation. Preferably as I am doing here you attempt to separate the person’s family and the person’s opinion you disagree with. For example I think Michael Weinstein is a world class pompous ass with a vendetta and a guy that uses his charity more to help himself than to help others (which is too bad, the AHF does really do a lot of good for poor HIV patients, if it weren’t headed by a lunatic spending money on a personal vendetta and stuck to treating HIV patients I would write a substantial check to them right now) but I haven’t even attempted to go after his family. I feel similarly about Izzy Hall and Rob Black except they don’t have a charity to pimp out. Michael Whiteacre hasn’t been acting any better lately (he hasn’t been directly accused but along with a couple others responding to Mike South’s post yesterday about how low the biz has sunk I wouldn’t put it past either Whiteacre or Rob to have been the one to start the slinging of bullshit you discuss being either said or alluded to about your late brother). It does take a lot for me to even not be able to separate the person from from the opinion/matter, if a person is basically a good person I can disagree with him with every fiber of my being about something and still treat that person civilly — this is why I can be civil with and even respect people like you and Lurking even with my disagreement regarding the direction the adult industry should take with VD matters.

I do have one suggestion, Tim — check with a slander/libel attorney regarding what has been said about your brother. He was not a public figure and he did not interject himself into adult industry affairs so you and your siblings may have a case and be able to make whoever is libeling your brother suffer a court judgment and garnishment of his wages for the rest of his life (judgments can be renewed before the statute of limitations on them run out to make them stay in force for the person’s lifetime in most states, your brother was based in CA with you so likely CA law applies). Good luck and may the bullshit slinging about your brother cease as soon as possible.