For years many performers had to quietly put certain known crossovers on their no list and not tell anyone why. They had to be so hush hush about it because they were bullied by the PC police for not being politically correct.
A year ago August Ames took a stand and went public with her belief that it’s her body and as such her right to decide if she wants to have sex with a gay man or not. She decided that for her, it just wasn’t worth the added risk to having sex with a gay male crossover and for her decision to speak openly and honestly about her right to chose she was brutally bullied. As we all known now, she ended up taking her own life.
August Ames would have celebrated her 24th birthday this month. Instead her husband, Kevin Moore flew her ashes home to Canada, her final resting place.
Now here we are again, less than a year after her death, having this very same conversation. Only this time it’s because twice this year a crossover has tested positive for HIV.
Karmen Karmer (@KarmenKarma) has taken to twitter to take her own stand.
So also wanted to make it clear that you don’t have to agree with her but she won’t be bullied into changing her mind either.
Not working with a crossover male performer isn’t about hating on gays, it’s about negating risk. You can support the gay community all day long and still not want to have sex with a gay guy.
That’s okay to feel that way. Having others hate on you for feeling that way is their problem, not yours. You do not have to justify why you don’t want to have sex with a gay guy. Them telling you that your feelings about your body are wrong, and only shows what kind of people they are.
What kind of person would try and force you to have sex with someone you don’t want to just because you don’t want to hurt their feelings? How stupid is that?
How is that even logical?
Oh no, how dare you say you don’t want to have sex with a gay guy?!?!?! That stigmatizes him. You better take that back!
In case you aren’t familiar with exactly what we are talking about, any male talent who also does gay porn is called a crossover and many female porn stars automatically put all crossovers on their no list for their own safety and well being. They consider their health more important than that.
They aren’t judging a guy for being gay. What he does with his body is his decision. What they are simply saying is, I personally do not want to have sex with a gay guy. It shouldn’t matter why, it’s my body, my decision.
But if you want to know the facts …. let’s talk science. These are facts that were taken from the CDC website this year, not in the 1990s as some will have you believe.
- Men who practice unprotected anal intercourse are at higher risk of contracting HIV.
- Most gay porn is done bareback. That’s unprotected anal intercourse.
Gay and bisexual men are more severely affected by HIV than any other group in the United States. 1 in 6 gay or bi-sexual men will be diagnosed with HIV in their lifetime. This means, even if you support a man’s right to chose who he wants to be with (in other words support a gay man’s right to be gay), it doesn’t change the fact that he’s in a higher risk category for contracting HIV.
- A much higher proportion of gay and bisexual men are living with HIV compared to any other group in the United States. Therefore gay and bisexual men have an increased chance of having an HIV-positive partner.
- 1 in 6 gay and bisexual men living with HIV are unaware they have it.
To lessen your risk of contracting HIV, any expert will tell you to avoid risky behavior which includes having unprotected sex with gay men.
How is this concept complicated?
This isn’t a judgment on a man’s lifestyle. It’s simply a decision someone makes to lessen their risk of contracting HIV by avoiding sexual relations with those who are at a higher risk for contracting HIV.
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While I agree with her stance, social media is not the place to voice this. Makes the industry look bad and her too.
I think it is the perfect place to make her point. Karmen obviously knows what happened to August, made an informed decision and feels strongly about the subject. I hope Karmen isn’t bullied like August was, though — it should be her choice as to whom to fuck and the industry doesn’t need two suicides in nine months. There are already people trying to claim that the guy involved doesn’t take dick but only took a dildo, that is the same BS people tried to pull with August and likely isn’t true, I think Karmen probably did her research before posting and from what friends of hers have said August certainly did! Karmen (and August) have/had the right to have a “no” list and not fuck certain people just as much as I have the right not to fuck Bonnie Rotten and Belladonna (for the record I am not attracted to Karmen, either, but think she has the right to decide who to fuck and who not to fuck)!
Totally agree with Karmen Karma. Few girls like the Karmen Karma cannot be bullied around.
She said there was a time she would have taken a stand unlike this. She is a mother now and you see things very different when you are a parent and you have matured.
One puzzling aspect of HIV to me are the gross disinformation or misinformation.
I really don’t know much about this topic but I have noticed many using the term ” patient zero”
errrrrr isn’t a patient zero the very first person who contracted HIV and transmitted it to another in the 1970’s ?
Another issue for me and it should be an issue and questioned by everyone.
1 What happens is a HIV infect person just becomes a drug addict and drunkard and stop taking the suppressant meds. What happens here, he or she can infect another then?
2 what happens when a HIV infected person becomes sick with say Bronchitis and cuts his finger and get an infection ?
does his or her immune system or whats left of it begins to fight those infects and now the HIV virus then goes live again leaving this infected person at the risk of being able to transmit HIV to another ?
3 The side effects of the suppressant meds are so horrific and leads a careless person back to square one when he or she cannot tolerate a blown out liver ?
For those about to pop off , easy snow flakes
I am not expert and only asking the question,
Well like driving your car each day one assumes the responsibilities of others are contingent upon reasonable expectations that your other fellow drivers are responsible. and drive safe ? SO WHY EVEN WEAR A SEAT BELT then ?
Just saying my .02 cents worth with a question that my surprise you
Summery: let everyone know who the person is at issue. fFnd the exception of the HIPAA laws..
Sorry but the needs and well being of the many far out weighs the selfish desires and privacy of the one
Makes sense but who knows what people are doing in private? Maybe there are “totally straight” porn dudes doing privates with men. I’d think that would be where the biggest risk comes from.
I saw a tweet that said nobody had the right 2 know if a person is hiv positive or not. I disagree! How is it not your right 2 know? How can anyone form a logical conclusion that if you got an std you shouldn’t tell your sexual partner about it? I don’t care if you are being treated for that std or not, you still gotta tell.
Justice very true. To say there is no right to know is in itself a contradiction in terms. There is a right to know and if you decide you dont need to know then bow out and move along.
Its just a matter of a short time and there is another one. Same story line, a cross over was not in his own lane
@Cosmo K – I disagree with you. Social media is often times the only place a porn star has any sort of voice. If she wants to take a stand, it’s the only place she can be sure her voice is heard.