You hear a lot lately about “findom” but what does that even mean? I thought today might be a good time to take a good look at what it even is and how it all works.
Simply put findom is short for financial domination. So now let’s talk about what that means.
The ‘Pay Per Play’ – aka P2P aka PPP – model has been the cornerstone of the online sex industry since the whole thing went digital. Right now, millions of men and women all over the world are exchanging cash payments for the services of ‘entertainers’ at remote locations.
You log onto a camgirl website, you find someone you like, and you hook up via webcam. You then have the option of asking them to do just about anything you can think of (within reason) on camera, in return for a suitable cash payment you transfer over.
A simple yet effective business model for the adult entertainment industry, and one that remains hugely popular worldwide.
Meanwhile, an entirely new adult entertainment model has taken off – and is going from strength to strength all over the world. The difference with this particular kink being that while you (technically) get something in return with P2P, findom is seemingly a one-way affair. That is, unless you count findom blackmail as a commodity worth paying for – apparently the case with a surprising number of participants.
Understanding the Appeal of Findom Blackmail
Human psychology is so complex that just about anything can be turned into a kink. When you think about it, the idea of hooking up with cam girls remotely via everyday consumer technology would have seemed like pure witchcraft in years gone by.
As times change, so too do the ways people look to satisfy their kinks with weird and wonderful forms of adult entertainment. A prominent example of which being financial domination or “findom”, which has been growing rapidly in popularity over the past few years on a global basis.
In a nutshell, financial domination is a fetish activity where the domme demands, exports, or extracts cash and gifts from their consenting yet submissive clients. They effectively transform their partners – aka paypigs – into human cash machines, using them exclusively to get what they want. Cash gifts are transferred online, often with the threat of consequences and the prospect of blackmail if the transaction isn’t made on time.
Financial domination differs from most conventional kinks in that absolutely no physical contact takes place. There’s no option for the client to meet the dominatrix, who may live thousands of miles away. Everything takes place online and is purely financial in nature, meaning there’s nothing tangible in it for the paypig.
How Findom Blackmail Holds Appeal
The apparent appeal of findom blackmail cannot be denied, given how many people are into it. As the name suggests, findom blackmail involves forcing clients to hand over (often sizeable) sums of cash to avoid the potential consequences of not doing so.
For example, if you don’t want the entire world to find out what you’ve been doing and have all the messages you’ve exchanged published online by your domme, you better pay her – and fast!
As for why this appeals to so many people, it is most likely rooted in the feelings of liberation associated with loss of control, powerlessness and weakness. There’s also an element of shame and humiliation to the whole thing, which some people naturally find arousing.
While the global findom audience is by no means exclusively male, it is primarily men who get a kick out of being financially dominated. Some experts have suggested that this could be something to do with the fact that masculinity and capitalism have always been intrinsically connected at a deep level. For a lot of men, money and masculinity go hand in hand – the worth of a man is measured by his ability to make ends meet and provide for his family.
Money always has been and always will be a major source of pride and confidence. This subsequently means that when you relinquish control of your finances to someone else, you also put your pride, your confidence, and your very worth in their hands. They have the power to decide whether you remain able to fund your lifestyle and support your family, or whether you go broke.
And if you dare deny their requests for payment, you pay the price with the consequences that follow.
The Thrill of Letting Go
If we take the time to stop and think about it, understanding the appeal of financial domination and findom blackmail is actually quite easy. Human beings are naturally predisposed to pursue activities and experiences that push them to the edge.
Think about it – why else would we be obsessed with things like roller coasters, extreme sports, scary movies, escape rooms, haunted houses, and so on? It’s all about injecting something scary and unpredictable into your daily life, though with the reassurance that you’re (probably) not going to come to harm.
With financial domination, it’s more or less the same – only in this instance you never know quite how far you’re going to be pushed!
In the end, you need to remember that “findom” is all about roleplay. It’s about acting out a fantasy between two consenting adults. Informed consent is the key. Never forget that.
