Alcohol and drug addictions are considered a disease for the simple fact that over time they can change certain neurotransmitters in the brain which is why both are considered “brain diseases.” Hence, why you can actually die from stopping certain drugs…

@Mike –
Yeah, everyone has their own tastes when it comes to sex and especially fetishes. But, it does seem that most people pretty much want to please their partner(s).

Although, there are some selfish fucking assholes out there who couldn’t give a shit about what their partner wants… I’ve heard way too many horror stories.

I have to admit sometimes even my own likes & dislikes confuse me. Like, I hate spitting in the face, but I completely understand throat fucking for the lube factor. I hate slapping in the face, but I fucking love ass slapping. I don’t like facials, but I have no problem swallowing. Absolutely no fucking choking, but stepping on my head is pretty cool.
Everything kind of intersects and makes no sense to me sometimes, but I guess that’s what makes it fun?

Oh, and I don’t really need any advice on how to get a dick hard. I could touch his thigh and he would get hard, but for some dumb fucking reason he won’t jerk off in front of me??? It drives me fucking insane. It’s the same fight every time with me asking him to jerk off and him telling me “why would I want to jerk off if you’re right in front of me?”
I mean, I can see his point, but get the fuck over it already. My mouth isn’t fucking going anywhere…

@CPan –
Don’t even get me started on breaking sex toys… I have somehow broken at least 75% of them at this point. I’m a sucker for g-spot vibrators. But, then it just makes me feel like a lazy masturbator most of the time. I mean it can’t get any easier… so, I get over the guilt really fast.
Do you have continuous orgasms? I’ve always thought maybe I just use them too long each time? But, then, I’ve never really understood people who masturbate and only have 1 orgasm? The first one is just the beginning!! It’s not until around #4 when it really starts to get fun! Hahaha.

@jilted –
Hey!! I’m addicted to Sprite so we can go to Soft drinkers Anonymous meetings together!

I do think coffee *may* be addictive? Have you seen someone who hasn’t had their coffee in the morning? They look like addicts waiting for that next hit. 😉

In my experience I have found that sometimes..more aggressive sex is fun but I dont and wont do spitting and specially assault or choking and such…I like facials (giving) but thats prolly to be expected since thats my niche. But it isnt a deal breaker…I MOSTLY like whatever turns her on but thats a two way street too…I do like it when she wears sexy clothes, does her hair and makeup and puts some effort into being exciting and or visually appealing. It doesnt have to be all the time but it should be enough to keep things from getting boring. Its a two way street….I have FWB relationships that have lasted for years because neither of us gets too comfy with a routine. That keeps the sex and the person interesting.

@chris –
While I do agree with you, it does seem a little harsh. Some of these women have full time jobs, kids to take care of, a house to keep clean and an entire list of other shit that has to get done… I would guess the last thing on her mind is being “exciting” enough to keep his dick hard??

I guess I’m just a little worried that within the last 6 months, I’ve had at least 5 friends explain this same exact problem. I’m not sure how to tell them “You fucking suck, you’re not exciting enough to keep his dick hard and you’re not attractive enough to fuck because you let yourself go and you look like a pig. Oh, by the way he doesn’t fucking love you anymore.”

How in the fuck am I supposed to tell a friend that? I get that the above may very well be true, but it can’t be that clear for ALL of them?

I’ve always wondered if it’s not porn, but actual porn stars that are the main issue here? When a guy watches porn they seem to normally like it pretty rough and dirty with slapping, spitting, facials, etc. and then they go to have sex with their wife and they don’t want to view her that way.. I doubt many husbands go around telling their wives “you dirty little slut whore. When we get home I’m going to fuck you like the good little whore that you are…” That may happen in a porno or in specific relationships, but it’s really not that common in the real world for either side. The husband might not want to see his wife as a dirty slut whore piece of shit, BUT that’s what gets him off. And, the wife may be into BDSM to get herself off, BUT the husband hates BDSM? I don’t even know if I’m actually making sense right now?

I guess what I’m trying to say is the husband is ok with watching dirty porn star sex, but they don’t want to view their own wife as “dirty” which then just takes the excitement out before she even tried. She doesn’t even have a chance before “the game” even begins.

Sorry, I’m kind of just rambling at this point… I hate being asked about this subject from friends and I hate trying to analyze it myself. 🙁

CPanzram:
You’re hilarious!!! 😀

@Hunter:
Yep. I totally agree with you.

@CPanzram for someone who takes the handle of a pretty notorious serial killer…you crack me the fuck up