Be grateful that you’re still being propositioned before your looks start to fade and you start gaining weight. You won’t have many of these men propostitoning you anymore or any porn company giving you a contract.

You need a thicker skin honey if you want to be in porn. Why are you surprised that a man assumes that you also hook on the side when you make your living having sex on camera with strangers? Yes I know the difference between porn and prostitution. But porn is a form of legalized prostitution. Every day plain-jane Mary Smith down the street gets propositioned. Why are you surpised that you do? If you don’t hook like most other male and female porn stars, then just delete the email or walk away.

Many porn stars make videos having sex with their fans instead of other porn stars. She’s not having sex with a professional. So isn’t she a prostitute? Who do you date off camera? Does he drive a nice car? Does he make lots of money? Does he own his own home? Would you turn down a date if he said he was taking you to Burger King instead of Mr. Chows? Everyone is a prostitute unless they are their own boss.

Now, I (quite obviously) have no objection to using porn (and possibly strip clubs, I haven’t much experience) as a stop gap measure – a sort of tiding over – between sexual encounters and/or romantic relationships, but I am under no illusions that one, if used dependently for long periods of time, will lead to the others.

Porn and strip clubs can be thought of “gateway drugs” of sorts. If and when the effect of those lose their luster, the person – driven by the same irrational, unrealistic urges and ideas which made substitute porn/strippers for actual intimacy – the person graduates to things like “casual encounters” and prostitution. Is it any wonder then that the person’s entire approach to the realm of sex is to view it as an anything goes, unreal world where any and every irrational assertion has the possibility of coming true? Despite a complete lack of evidence?

Personally, I’ve never been able to bring myself to pay for sex (Hell, I’ve never been able to pay for porn! Thanks Freeones.), but I don’t think it is because the girls I lust after make it perfectly clear that they wouldn’t accept. They may not, but that isn’t my point. My point is that what keeps me from reaching that level is what certain other men lack: a (at least periodic) confidence that if I really tried, I could have sex for free quite quickly as well as a constant reminder that my lonliness – which drives me to porn on a daily basis – is the result something I possess (unusually high integrity); not something I lack (self-esteem).

I quite understand how tedious it would/does become for someone of your intellect, pose and beauty to continuously receive propositions of that nature. However, when objectively analyzed I believe your frustration is due primarily to the repetition of which it occurs, then by the actual proposition. An angry response (given as a first response) may in fact make your point “I’m not a whore”, but it also sends other messages; “I’m tired and don’t want to be doing this.”, “I wouldn’t fuck you for a million dollars, LOSER.” “I’m only here for the money. I prefer women” and so on and so forth. Although, these may in fact be correct thoughts, they also are the messages which are hindering the prospects of getting that lap dance money you want.

You would fare better to; Thank him for his complement, explain that isn’t a service you offer and suggest a friend who does. At a club, play along until you have the lap dance then move on. Etc. etc, etc. You get the idea.

Hell, I’m sure you had the idea all along. You’re just tired of being hit on by old fat guys you would fuck if your life depended on it, frustrated by everyone else trying to run your life and thinking THEY know better than YOU, when THEY couldn’t fight their way out of a wet paper sack.

My guess is you probably just need a good…..